More salt please!
Last week, I was talking with a candidate about the difficulties he was having with friendships.
This person was reflecting upon the nature of his relationships at his sports club and he commented that even though he enjoyed spending time with these friends, there was always a bit of a barrier between them because these friends weren’t Christians. He often felt that there were things he couldn’t say about his life because he thought they wouldn’t ‘get it’.
I was able to empathise with this. I have just had the joy of spending the weekend in London catching up with my university friends who do not yet profess a Christian faith. I have known these friends for nearly 15 years and I love them dearly. It is occasionally a source of sadness to me that following my calling has meant that I am no longer a part of their daily lives and consequently miss out on a lot of the things they do together.
However, it is not just that I live in a different city which means I am slightly on the edge of the group. If my Christian faith means anything, I should have completely different priorities in my life which mean I could not do everything with my friends, even if I were available to.
the Contemplative Pastor
, Eugene Peterson talks about the apocalyptic essence of the Christian faith, which understands our world systems to be broken beyond repair and doomed to destruction, and that another kingdom is being formed right now in secret to take its place. This kingdom of Jesus – characterised by justice, peace, love, mercy, joy, forgiveness and grace – is already in existence all around us, it is just not visible yet. Our role as Christians is to alert people to the true nature of reality, and to order our own lives in readiness to live in this new kingdom when it comes.
OK, I appreciate that to explain the Christian faith like this to your work colleagues would most likely lead them to the conclusion that you are at best a fool, or at worst deranged, and it might jeopardise your chances of getting that promotion you need in order to pay off the mortgage. And so we don't say anything.
Perhaps when asked by your colleague
‘so what are you doing this weekend?’
I admit, it might be a bit too much to respond with
‘meeting with fellow followers of The Way to celebrate and be reminded that Jesus is Lord of creation and to pray and be equipped to overthrow the present powers of this world in subversive ways in our daily lives’
but we could at least opt for
‘going to church – I find it brings me a sense of peace and perspective on my life’
‘oh, nothing much.
It seems that because we are so often afraid that our not-yet believing friends won’t ‘get’ our faith and will think we are mad, we don’t say anything at all and dull down the vibrancy of our faith in order not to isolate ourselves from our friends and colleagues. Jesus says we are ‘salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot’ (Matthew 5:13). This verse is a huge challenge to me when I recall all the times I have missed opportunities by saying ‘nothing much’ when I could have said so much more.
Friends of mine who live overseas and seek to share their faith with the people they live amongst have been experimenting with what they call ‘salty statements’ as a way to open up faith conversations. As I understand it, this is simply about avoiding the self-censoring that we so often do because we think people won’t ‘get it’, and being a bit more intentionally explicit about the things we already do and think.
So, here are some examples of how these ‘salty statements’ could be employed:
Its lovely weather isn’t it?
My usual answer:
Yes, praise God for the sunshine
So are you coming out for a drink later?
My usual answer:
I can’t, I’ve got other plans
I can’t, I’ve got a church group at my house tonight where we will be praying for people who are sick
is there anything we could pray for you about?)
Why didn’t you go for that job? It looked great.
My usual answer:
Oh, it just didn’t feel right
Well, I’d been wrestling with the decision for a while and so prayed about it and felt that God was calling me to do something else
I hate watching the news and all the stuff about the refugee crisis, it’s terrible
My usual answer:
yes it is horrible
I find it hard to watch too, but wherever I see the news, I’ve been trying to pray for the people affected and ask God what he might want me to do about it
It is not about trying to cram the whole gospel into every sentence, or manipulating conversations towards matters of faith, its just about saying a bit more than you might normally to give people the opportunity to talk further if they wanted to, or at least to let them know that you are someone they could talk to about these things if they ever wanted to. Yes, they might not ‘get it’, but how will they if no-one tells them (Romans 10:14)?
And yes, they might think you are weird, but then at least they might stop making small talk with you and let you get on with your work!
Why not have a go this week, think of ‘salty’ answers that you might be able to give to common questions, and then be brave and have a go. Be the salt and light Jesus calls you to be.
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